Me and the North Sea: It’s complicated…

Hello,

In the last newsletter, I told you how I fell flat on my face. Just because I ignored my Human Design Strategy. But I’ve learned my lesson.

That happens.
But it can lead to too much work that was for nothing, as in my case.

Fortunately, life often gives us a second chance.
This time, I want to do better.

Because there is a new situation that I need to share with you.

Watch out…

Life has made it clear to me:
A vacation on the North Sea is not for me.

Not gently.

But the hard way.

Two weeks ago, it was time.

I – with my three girls – drove to the coast.
Sweet thatched-roof house, sheep behind the garden, barn full of toys.

Perfect, right?

But the moment we arrived, the last ray of sunshine disappeared. ☁️

For an entire week the sun was completely gone. ☁️
And it rained in between. 🌧️

And – surprise! – the sun came back…

You can probably guess.

On the day of our departure. 🌟

Thanks, dear strategy, for this crystal-clear message.

Because this wasn’t the first time my North Sea vacation fell through.

I don’t want pity.

I just want to show you how strategy can be applied in everyday life.

Believe me, I’m not planning any more vacations at the North Sea.

And that’s not just from my perspective as a Generator.
Here are two stories from our community:

Romi, Projector 2/4, wrote me (and – what a coincidence – she’s from the North Sea):

Last year, I put on my apron at the hotel and stormed the kitchen – as a men’s tailor with my own business, of course in style. Things were going well, I was in the flow… until I noticed: Some guests can’t tolerate quite a lot – except gluten, lactose, sugar, sun, and bad moods.

I had THE idea how to solve the kitchen chaos with special requests. I presented it in the team meeting. And? Total silence. Three attempts, three discussions later: I was frustrated, went back – and shortly after, was folding fabrics again.

Then came Human Design. And I said to myself: “Wait for the invitation!” – I thought: Great, so now I should just sit around and wait for invitations?!

But then it happened: New challenge, new guest, new idea – and this time I said veeery charmingly to the head chef:
“I might have an idea… if you’d like?”

BAM. Invitation there. Nod of approval. Go.
I was allowed to work it out, implement it, present it.
And suddenly it felt like I had ten coffees at once in my system. Pure energy! Since then, the team has been working according to my suggestion.

Human Design has made my life a lot easier. And now I like to wait… for the right invitation.

Christine, also a Projector, experienced the following:

In the last six months, I began to look at my life through a new lens – that of Human Design. When I recognized how I am truly “designed,” I looked back. And suddenly everything made sense.

Whenever invitations came my way – real ones, without pressure – doors opened, and the flow began. But whenever my willpower, stubbornness, and ego tried to push things through, it cost me huge amounts of energy reserves, frustration – and in the end, the realization that this path wasn’t meant for me.

It became especially painful when I thought about a past relationship. A man from Hamburg, met through friends, triggered all my conquest instincts. I fought – charming, passionate, but driven by ego. It was no longer about closeness, but about pride. The feeling of “winning.” Even in my environment.

And although I eventually “won” him, the price was high. Many obstacles, many signals I ignored at the time – and a growing feeling that none of it was truly right.

Today I know: Not everything you can have is truly meant for you. And sometimes the strongest act of self-leadership is not to conquer – but to wait for an invitation that shows up freely.

Thank you, Romi.
Thank you, Christine.
I am deeply touched. 🙏

Thomas

P.S.: If you’d like to learn more about your personal strategy and many more aspects of Human Design, order my written Human Design Career Analysis or sign up for a career reading with me.

PPS: I’ve archived my past newsletters. So if you’d like to read through an older newsletter again, you can find it here.

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